Hard

A major trend on fb is sharing blog posts and videos of content the masses agree with. Often times they even make the news.  Some are heartfelt and warm, some spirited with awesome ideas.  Some are inspiring and others are ripe with sarcasm. Sarcasm especially if it's a rebuttal of an inspiring one.  Many lately have had to do with trails and varying topics that can come from this human condition.  One mocks the old phrase about God not giving us anything harder than we can handle.  One says you shouldn't get married for yourself but the other person, while a rebuttal snarks back with a, "no we get married for ourselves."  

One video of a teacher even goes so far as to claim that blacks are the only ones who do not choose to confront their trials everyday.  They are forced to because of their very obvious different than us skin color.  She's close.  She's super close.  Black people and I'll include those who just aren't white, have a sort of brand that makes it impossible to "walk away" as she puts it. I agree that there is no way they can walk away.  It's sort of funny that she reminded me of the psycho neuro. Seriously, she looks like her, is super pushy and insists no one can have a valid point but her just like that neuro, etc.  Anyway, to get back to the point... 

What about someone else with something obvious they cannot hide?

I can think of some.  Let's see, what about someone who is "freakishly" tall?  Or the opposite?  I mean seriously, a 3-4ft adult isn't going to get prejudice everyday?  Come on.  Or a woman who's got so much body hair she can't keep up with it.  Laugh, or scoff, but they exist, I saw both just the other day while out shopping.  What about people with a disability?  Did they CHOOSE it?  Did any of these examples choose? Can they hide it?  Can they walk away from it?

Another video posted was not at all what I expected.  I knew the person who posted it was one of the sweetest individuals I've had the fortune of encountering.  So I watched.  And I was stunned.

At 3:47 mins it starts to hit.  The profound.
"Hard is hard."  Everyone has their own, stop comparing which is harder.

So as I post messages about my boys- funny, sweet, heartbreaking...
I've lost friends. I've lost family. Some in criticism, some in just not having anything in common anymore.
But I want to voice again, what I've known for some time.
Hard is hard, and I do not post any of it in trying to get attention or say hey we've got it so hard.
I'm just keeping those who care in the loop.  And maybe, I might be letting someone know they aren't alone in what they are going through.

And what we do choose is how we deal with each other and ourselves.
Are we ripe with sarcasm?  Or are we gentle and caring?
Are we quick to put others down or point the finger or kick while already down?
Or are we slow to judge and willing to really look for the good and assume the best?